EMDR & Couples Therapy: Exploring Gottman vs. EFT Approaches

EMDR & Couples Therapy | Coastwise

At Coastwise Health, we understand that every relationship is unique, and so is every path to healing. For couples experiencing emotional disconnection, conflict, or trauma-related patterns, evidence-based therapy can help rebuild trust and connection. As part of our growing clinical team, our new therapist, Maureen Teefy, LMFT, brings expertise in two of the most respected couples therapy models: Gottman Method Couples Therapy and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).

In this article, we explore how these two approaches work, how they differ, and how EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) can be integrated to support couples in deeper healing.

What Is EMDR in the Context of Couples Therapy?

EMDR is a well-researched trauma treatment that helps individuals reprocess painful memories and reduce emotional reactivity. While often used in individual therapy, EMDR can also benefit couples, especially when unresolved trauma is affecting the relationship.

At Coastwise Health, EMDR may be used alongside couples therapy to:

• Help one or both partners process trauma that impacts communication or intimacy
• Reduce triggers that escalate conflict
• Increase emotional regulation and safety within the relationship

Gottman Method Couples Therapy: Data-Driven, Practical Tools

Created by Drs. John and Julie Gottman, this method is rooted in over 40 years of research with real couples. The Gottman Method focuses on:

• Building friendship and emotional connection
• Managing conflict through structured techniques
• Creating shared meaning and long-term goals

This approach is ideal for couples who want practical tools and a clear roadmap for communication and problem-solving. It includes the famous “Sound Relationship House” model and structured exercises to strengthen intimacy.

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT): Deep Emotional Bonding

EFT, developed by Dr. Sue Johnson, is an attachment-based approach that focuses on helping couples identify and heal the emotional wounds that drive negative cycles. EFT helps couples:

• Recognize their deeper emotional needs and fears
• Shift from blame to vulnerability
• Create secure emotional bonds

EFT is especially effective for couples who feel stuck in recurring conflict or emotional disconnection. It emphasizes empathy, validation, and emotional responsiveness.

Gottman vs. EFT: Which Is Right for You?

Both modalities are highly effective, but they serve different types of relational needs.

At Coastwise Health, our therapists tailor your care based on your unique relationship history, attachment styles, and personal goals.

Meet Maureen Teefy, LMFT

We proudly welcome Maureen Teefy, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, to our team. With training in EMDR and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Maureen brings a compassionate, creative, and trauma-informed approach to couples therapy.

Her work is grounded in attachment science, helping partners recognize and express underlying needs in healthier ways. Maureen also integrates EMDR to help clients understand how past experiences may influence current relational patterns.

With a background in the performing arts, Maureen views each person as having infinite creative potential: “The energy of creativity is like a fire that transforms all kinds of obstacles into opportunities for dynamic new growth and advancement” (Daisaku Ikeda).

Whether you’re navigating the aftermath of betrayal, trauma, or years of emotional distance, Maureen can help you and your partner move from disconnection to safety and understanding.

Ready to reconnect?
Contact us at CoastwiseHealth.com to schedule a couples consultation or learn more about our therapy team.